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Sheryl M Sutton, a local Business Owner launches Bully Busters of  America, a social awareness and educational project that will focus on  the effects of bullying and violence.Sheryl teamed up with  several very talented colleagues and an attorney to co-author and  publish an extensive study and article dealing with workplace violence  and bullying. For the full published article See “Bullying in the  Workplace: and What to Do About It”.  The article was published in the  USD California Business Practice Magazine.  This first published article  focuses on the workplace.  However, the dynamics explained in this  published article can help in any situation. Sheryl plans to focus on  the broader range of topics of bullying to educate and create awareness  on how to deter the rising issue of bullying.  

The growing issue of  bullying, aggressive behavior and violence is plaguing our entire  community, the vitality of our businesses and our children.  Sheryl  stated, “I want to arm businesses and individuals with the knowledge of  how to deal with this growing prevalence of devious behavior that is  plaguing our businesses and our community at an alarming rate.” When Sheryl was faced with interpersonal violence and bullying she  decided to start the project.  “My situation was so severe that I was  almost bullied right out of my life; there was no stone unturned in an  effort to disrupt and damage every aspect of my life.” The more money  and power a bully has; the more detrimental the situation can become.   “I am not the typical person that you would believe could be bullied. I  went from being the Executive Vice President of my company and a well  known community advocate who was very involved in our community to being  slandered and character assasinated to cover up the truth.  I am known  to be an assertive strong leader who has dealt with many tough job  situations.  In fact, I have been an advocate for those who do not have a  voice for many years.”   “So, I am living proof that it can happen to  anyone.”The Bully uses intimidation and forms a swath of terror  and fear around their targeted person in order to “isolate” the targeted  person of their wrath.  So, most people are afraid they will be  retaliated against.  However, the truth is when people band together  against this behavior, the bully will stop.   When we decide as a  culture and community that it is not acceptable behavior and that there  are consequences for harming others, then we can start to make progress.   One way to help deter this is recognizing the signs.  For instance, if  you see that a person who is being slandered in mass or ganged up on,  more than likely it is the work of a devious person with their network  of bullies who make up lies to control and dominate the person in order  to humiliate and destroy them publicly.  C.S Lewis stated, “To publicly  humiliate a person with half truths and lies to the point of ruin is to  have murdered them.” It takes away the primal ability to fend for  oneself and can cause destruction, long term illness and death.

 It is  against the properties of Constitutional Rights to harass a person to  the point where their civil liberties are violated and their ability to  sustain themselves is destroyed.  This evades the Constitutional Rights  of a life of liberty and the pursuit of happiness.  Sheryl shares her  business and personal  story about how this happened to her.  She was  publicly lynch mobbed with lies to cover up what she had endured. She  went from being a well known business woman who was very well respected  to being stoned in the public ruining her career and her public life  including damaging her personal and business relationships and her  family.  She has not able to spend time with her parents in their  final years due to the devious acts. Friends watched in disbelief while  she struggled to survive slowly losing her health, her quality of life  and her ability to work. She was viciously attacked at a level that most  people would not or could survive without training and extreme  strength.  "No one in this country should ever endure what I went  through" Sutton stated.  She shares insight into how she survived and  what was most helpful. It will be important to create social  norms that will ultimately deter this behavior. We must go back to the  basics of creating acceptable community social norms for cohesive  relations through effective communication training and the refusal to  accept bad behavior.  Societal norms focused on the expectation of  treating others with care, kindness and respect regardless of  differences. It will help to deter these actions and start to create a  healthier workplace and community atmosphere.These destructive  types of bullies like to cover up their actions by “projecting” their  behavior onto the victims of their targeted wrath.  Depending of the  type of bully or the severity of their mentality, they feel powerful  when they crush someone or put someone down. However,  they are often  cowardly people who have fragmented or entitled egos who have a lack of  empathy for others.  They use a sequence of very manipulative and  devious acts called “crazy making” which is a term used for manipulative  sabotage and attacks that are often covert and very believable. These  sabotaging acts are  designed to manipulate others and to destabilize  the targeted person to throw them off balance while making them look  like they are going  crazy which is in fact the "projected" psyche of  the bully onto their victim. In other words the person who is inflicting  harm on the other makes the innocent person look like the problem.  Bullies with destructive behavior are often very convincing and are  able to solicit others to damage the relationships in order isolate and  sabotage the targeted person. It is a fulltime job being a bully so, it  is important for the bully to solicit others including family members  and friends to join in or gang up on their targeted victim.  Sheryl  calls it the “network of devils” that join in the mission to completely  annihilate a targeted person.  The damage can be so severe that it will  be very difficult for a person to survive or to start over.  Character  assassination and sabotage in mass is one of their tools. These types  most often do not have a conscience and the only time they will appear  to be sorry for their actions is when they get caught or are confronted.   Don’t be fooled by their words or their empty apologies nor be drawn  in to their manipulation because they often do not have a conscience and  lack the empathy that normal functioning people have. These types  calculatingly know that you will have to forgive them for actions they  are not sorry for. Our cultural beliefs work against us in these  matters. It is important to forgive in most matters of error but, more  important to detach from someone elses behavior. Sheryl believes that  the only apology for this type of destructive behavior is changed  behavior and consequences. Sheryl has developed a unique style  of training and awareness that will help deter and stop these  destructive behaviors.   Sheryl emphasized that “these devious behaviors  can become so serious that they accelerate to criminal behavior if not  deterred early on.” Sheryl plans to address this within the community.   The rising cost to our businesses is substantial and the harmful effects  to the individual is very serious.  Sheryl also has a long background  of working with law enforcement so, she understands the behaviors very  well and gives perspective on what is necessary to deter and stop these  behaviors.  Sheryl places a unique description of the varying degrees of  pathological behavior traits of narcissism and the varying degrees of  aggressive behavior,  how to recognize the signs,  how to assertively  deal with the behavior and how to validate those who are affected.  She  places emphasis on the societal issues that harm the targeted victim.   Sheryl trains leaders on how to recognize and deal with these  destructive behaviors in the workplace. She addresses what we must do as  business leaders and community leaders in order to stop this problem  before our community is damaged with further crime and our businesses  can no longer prosper and create opportunity and jobs.  In her  experience Sheryl stated that most victims of bullying or violence can  describe what is happening to them but, do not fully grasp or understand  the dynamics of what has happened to them due to covert tactics used.   It is important to recognize the signs, validate the victim, and to  provide support by acknowledging the issue.  It is very important not to  re-victimize the victim by blaming them for the offender’s behavior.  This is a very serious and damaging common societal issue that must be  addressed.  Sheryl plans to help create more social awareness and  training that will focus on what to look for and how to help.  Businesses must have a preventative plan in place that deals with these  issues immediately and effectively. The training is imperative or the  liabilities can be detrimental to the organization and those who are  affected.  Sheryl’s unique approach to workplace training and leadership  provides proven success.  In Sheryl’s first published article in a  series on “Workplace violence and Bullying”, Sheryl and other  co-authored colleagues have outlined statistics showing the rise in  bully behavior in the American workplace.  She stresses the importance  of this training because once the culture of the company has been  compromised, the business will start to decline and once this happens;  it is very difficult to gain it back.”  Sheryl speaks from firsthand  experience.   It is very important to train supervisors on how to deal  with these types of damaging behaviors effectively and immediately for  preventative measures.  Key factors in deterring liabilities are;  a  preventative plan, advanced training for supervisors on how to recognize  these behaviors and how to deal with them effective and immediately.  One bad apple really can spoil the whole bunch. “If an organization  fails to take preventative measures immediately, the liabilities can be  so detrimental to success of a business and can lead to lost profits and  failure of the business. This article focused more on workplace  violence and bullying but, the behaviors described and how to deal with  it can be helpful in any case.  Sheryl plans to focus on a  broader scale of bullying.  Our children must be safe in our schools and  our work place free of these destructive behaviors.  Our community at  large must address these issues as it affects the vitality and growth of  our entire communities. Bullying is on the rise in America and it is  affecting our communities at an alarming rate.

 About the author:  Sheryl Sutton is the former Founder and Executive  Vice President of a large local business which became of one the top  leaders in the real estate contracting field.  She has been very active  in the community for many years and served on various Charitable Boards  and has also served on City Council task force for housing issues as  well as been active in local politics for community development.  Sheryl  is also one of the former co-founders of a local non-profit for  education and legal training for the real estate management industry.  She has.worked and lived  in foreign countries and worked with local non  profit organizations on povety issues and sustainable development.    Over the course of her career Sheryl received several awards and  recognition for her leadership.  Sheryl has also served on the San Diego  Symphony Board of Directors for more than 9 years and has been involved  in charitable giving for many years. Sheryl’s business was a  start up with very little financial backing which grew into a very  successful business.  Sheryl’s experiences include 29 years of  construction and real estate management specializing in large scale  high-end multi-unit properties as well as distressed turnarounds for  optimum cash flow.  She strongly believes that her business model is one  that she still believes is a winning strategy to business.  She enjoys  sharing her experiences with other business leaders and is passionate  about encouraging other entrepreneurs to seek out their dreams.  Sheryl  said, “I love seeing others live out their passions and most of all I  love seeing them succeed. It takes individuals who are really willing to  look at themselves and self assess to gain the winning spirit that will  carry them through their mission.  Personal growth that forms a solid  mission is essential to becoming successful. Each individual brings  something new to the table. We need a healthy business climate of  encouragers to help create opportunity.    Sheryl served in one  of the toughest leadership roles there is for a leader due to the fast  paced and often stressful nature of her industry.  The finesse of  leading in a high stress industry with continuous emergencies and  liabilities requires a true dance of leadership.  The continuous task of  investing in your staff and helping people grow at a level where  everyone is working together in concert with your mission for your  company is paramount to success and growth.   These vast experiences  have afforded Sheryl many unique skills that she shares to help  businesses and individuals succeed.  Sheryl is a seasoned expert in  labor issues, leadership training and organizational management.   It  has been a long passion of hers to help businesses succeed through sound  business strategies and leadership practice.  Sheryl believes that  effective leadership, effective hiring practices, a solid mission and  business plan that includes effective leadership commitments that can  create a solid culture that is vital and conducive to deterring  violence, limiting liabilities and increasing profits. Sheryl spent many  years of her career professional coaching, training and leading men and  women to help them through personal growth.   She will be working with  community advocates and others to help promote social change within our  communities to help deter the effects of bullying which she believes  also increases the crime rates. We must do this in order to protect our  businesses so that we can create jobs and opportunity for our community.      Sheryl Sutton continues to raise community awareness on  these issues and has been a speaker on Workplace Bullying and Violence  at UCSD Business and Leadership Program.  As an active leader in the  community she has been a longtime speaker and trainer on leadership and  labor issues with an extensive background in organizational leadership  and management.  Sheryl Sutton is the founder of Bully Busters  of America and also owns a business consulting firm.  Sheryl plans to  continue training and public speaking on these issues as well as a  broader scope of bullying topics for training.   She will be working  with community advocates to increase awareness and to create programs  for deterrence.

Sheryl M Sutton, a local Business Owner launches Bully Busters of  America, a social awareness and educational project that will focus on  the effects of bullying and violence.

Sheryl teamed up with  several very talented colleagues and an attorney to co-author and  publish an extensive study and article dealing with workplace violence  and bullying. For the full published article See “Bullying in the  Workplace: and What to Do About It”.  The article was published in the  USD California Business Practice Magazine.  This first published article  focuses on the workplace.  However, the dynamics explained in this  published article can help in any situation. Sheryl plans to focus on  the broader range of topics of bullying to educate and create awareness  on how to deter the rising issue of bullying.  The growing issue of  bullying, aggressive behavior and violence is plaguing our entire  community, the vitality of our businesses and our children.  Sheryl  stated, “I want to arm businesses and individuals with the knowledge of  how to deal with this growing prevalence of devious behavior that is  plaguing our businesses and our community at an alarming rate.”

When Sheryl was faced with interpersonal violence and bullying she  decided to start the project.  “My situation was so severe that I was  almost bullied right out of my life; there was no stone unturned in an  effort to disrupt and damage every aspect of my life.” The more money  and power a bully has; the more detrimental the situation can become.   “I am not the typical person that you would believe could be bullied. I  went from being the Executive Vice President of my company and a well  known community advocate who was very involved in our community to being  slandered and character assasinated to cover up the truth.  I am known  to be an assertive strong leader who has dealt with many tough job  situations.  In fact, I have been an advocate for those who do not have a  voice for many years.”   “So, I am living proof that it can happen to  anyone.”

The Bully uses intimidation and forms a swath of terror  and fear around their targeted person in order to “isolate” the targeted  person of their wrath.  So, most people are afraid they will be  retaliated against.  However, the truth is when people band together  against this behavior, the bully will stop.   When we decide as a  culture and community that it is not acceptable behavior and that there  are consequences for harming others, then we can start to make progress.   One way to help deter this is recognizing the signs.  For instance, if  you see that a person who is being slandered in mass or ganged up on,  more than likely it is the work of a devious person with their network  of bullies who make up lies to control and dominate the person in order  to humiliate and destroy them publicly.  C.S Lewis stated, “To publicly  humiliate a person with half truths and lies to the point of ruin is to  have murdered them.” It takes away the primal ability to fend for  oneself and can cause destruction, long term illness and death. 

It is  against the properties of Constitutional Rights to harass a person to  the point where their civil liberties are violated and their ability to  sustain themselves is destroyed.  This evades the Constitutional Rights  of a life of liberty and the pursuit of happiness.  

Sheryl shares her  business and personal  story about how this happened to her.  

She was  publicly lynch mobbed with lies to cover up what she had endured. She  went from being a well known business woman who was very well respected  to being stoned in the public ruining her career and her public life  including damaging her personal and business relationships and her  family.   She has not able to spend time with her parents in their  final years due to the devious acts. Friends watched in disbelief while  she struggled to survive slowly losing her health, her quality of life  and her ability to work. She was viciously attacked at a level that most  people would not or could survive without training and extreme  strength.  "No one in this country should ever endure what I went  through" Sutton stated.  She shares insight into how she survived and  what was most helpful. 

It will be important to create social  norms that will ultimately deter this behavior. We must go back to the  basics of creating acceptable community social norms for cohesive  relations through effective communication training and the refusal to  accept bad behavior.  Societal norms focused on the expectation of  treating others with care, kindness and respect regardless of  differences. It will help to deter these actions and start to create a  healthier workplace and community atmosphere.

These destructive  types of bullies like to cover up their actions by “projecting” their  behavior onto the victims of their targeted wrath.  Depending of the  type of bully or the severity of their mentality, they feel powerful  when they crush someone or put someone down. However,  they are often  cowardly people who have fragmented or entitled egos who have a lack of  empathy for others.  They use a sequence of very manipulative and  devious acts called “crazy making” which is a term used for manipulative  sabotage and attacks that are often covert and very believable. These  sabotaging acts are  designed to manipulate others and to destabilize  the targeted person to throw them off balance while making them look  like they are going  crazy which is in fact the "projected" psyche of  the bully onto their victim. In other words the person who is inflicting  harm on the other makes the innocent person look like the problem. 

Bullies with destructive behavior are often very convincing and are  able to solicit others to damage the relationships in order isolate and  sabotage the targeted person. It is a fulltime job being a bully so, it  is important for the bully to solicit others including family members  and friends to join in or gang up on their targeted victim.  Sheryl  calls it the “network of devils” that join in the mission to completely  annihilate a targeted person.  The damage can be so severe that it will  be very difficult for a person to survive or to start over.  Character  assassination and sabotage in mass is one of their tools. These types  most often do not have a conscience and the only time they will appear  to be sorry for their actions is when they get caught or are confronted.   Don’t be fooled by their words or their empty apologies nor be drawn  in to their manipulation because they often do not have a conscience and  lack the empathy that normal functioning people have. These types  calculatingly know that you will have to forgive them for actions they  are not sorry for. Our cultural beliefs work against us in these  matters. It is important to forgive in most matters of error but, more  important to detach from someone elses behavior. Sheryl believes that  the only apology for this type of destructive behavior is changed  behavior and consequences. 

Sheryl has developed a unique style  of training and awareness that will help deter and stop these  destructive behaviors.   Sheryl emphasized that “these devious behaviors  can become so serious that they accelerate to criminal behavior if not  deterred early on.” Sheryl plans to address this within the community.   The rising cost to our businesses is substantial and the harmful effects  to the individual is very serious.  Sheryl also has a long background  of working with law enforcement so, she understands the behaviors very  well and gives perspective on what is necessary to deter and stop these  behaviors.  Sheryl places a unique description of the varying degrees of  pathological behavior traits of narcissism and the varying degrees of  aggressive behavior,  how to recognize the signs,  how to assertively  deal with the behavior and how to validate those who are affected.  She  places emphasis on the societal issues that harm the targeted victim.   Sheryl trains leaders on how to recognize and deal with these  destructive behaviors in the workplace. She addresses what we must do as  business leaders and community leaders in order to stop this problem  before our community is damaged with further crime and our businesses  can no longer prosper and create opportunity and jobs.  

In her  experience Sheryl stated that most victims of bullying or violence can  describe what is happening to them but, do not fully grasp or understand  the dynamics of what has happened to them due to covert tactics used.   It is important to recognize the signs, validate the victim, and to  provide support by acknowledging the issue.  It is very important not to  re-victimize the victim by blaming them for the offender’s behavior.  This is a very serious and damaging common societal issue that must be  addressed.  Sheryl plans to help create more social awareness and  training that will focus on what to look for and how to help. 

Businesses must have a preventative plan in place that deals with these  issues immediately and effectively. The training is imperative or the  liabilities can be detrimental to the organization and those who are  affected.  Sheryl’s unique approach to workplace training and leadership  provides proven success.  In Sheryl’s first published article in a  series on “Workplace violence and Bullying”, Sheryl and other  co-authored colleagues have outlined statistics showing the rise in  bully behavior in the American workplace.  She stresses the importance  of this training because once the culture of the company has been  compromised, the business will start to decline and once this happens;  it is very difficult to gain it back.”  Sheryl speaks from firsthand  experience.   It is very important to train supervisors on how to deal  with these types of damaging behaviors effectively and immediately for  preventative measures.  Key factors in deterring liabilities are;  a  preventative plan, advanced training for supervisors on how to recognize  these behaviors and how to deal with them effective and immediately.  One bad apple really can spoil the whole bunch. “If an organization  fails to take preventative measures immediately, the liabilities can be  so detrimental to success of a business and can lead to lost profits and  failure of the business. This article focused more on workplace  violence and bullying but, the behaviors described and how to deal with  it can be helpful in any case.  

Sheryl plans to focus on a  broader scale of bullying.  Our children must be safe in our schools and  our work place free of these destructive behaviors.  Our community at  large must address these issues as it affects the vitality and growth of  our entire communities. Bullying is on the rise in America and it is  affecting our communities at an alarming rate.  You can reach  Sheryl@sherylmsutton.com or visit her facebook page at BullyBustersofAmerica.com 

About the author:  Sheryl Sutton is the former Founder and Executive  Vice President of a large local business which became of one the top  leaders in the real estate contracting field.  She has been very active  in the community for many years and served on various Charitable Boards  and has also served on City Council task force for housing issues as  well as been active in local politics for community development.  Sheryl  is also one of the former co-founders of a local non-profit for  education and legal training for the real estate management industry.  She has.worked and lived  in foreign countries and worked with local non  profit organizations on povety issues and sustainable development.    Over the course of her career Sheryl received several awards and  recognition for her leadership.  Sheryl has also served on the San Diego  Symphony Board of Directors for more than 9 years and has been involved  in charitable giving for many years. 

Sheryl’s business was a  start up with very little financial backing which grew into a very  successful business.  Sheryl’s experiences include 29 years of  construction and real estate management specializing in large scale  high-end multi-unit properties as well as distressed turnarounds for  optimum cash flow.  She strongly believes that her business model is one  that she still believes is a winning strategy to business.  She enjoys  sharing her experiences with other business leaders and is passionate  about encouraging other entrepreneurs to seek out their dreams.  Sheryl  said, “I love seeing others live out their passions and most of all I  love seeing them succeed. It takes individuals who are really willing to  look at themselves and self assess to gain the winning spirit that will  carry them through their mission.  Personal growth that forms a solid  mission is essential to becoming successful. Each individual brings  something new to the table. We need a healthy business climate of  encouragers to help create opportunity.    

Sheryl served in one  of the toughest leadership roles there is for a leader due to the fast  paced and often stressful nature of her industry.  The finesse of  leading in a high stress industry with continuous emergencies and  liabilities requires a true dance of leadership.  The continuous task of  investing in your staff and helping people grow at a level where  everyone is working together in concert with your mission for your  company is paramount to success and growth.   These vast experiences  have afforded Sheryl many unique skills that she shares to help  businesses and individuals succeed.  Sheryl is a seasoned expert in  labor issues, leadership training and organizational management.   It  has been a long passion of hers to help businesses succeed through sound  business strategies and leadership practice.  Sheryl believes that  effective leadership, effective hiring practices, a solid mission and  business plan that includes effective leadership commitments that can  create a solid culture that is vital and conducive to deterring  violence, limiting liabilities and increasing profits. Sheryl spent many  years of her career professional coaching, training and leading men and  women to help them through personal growth.   She will be working with  community advocates and others to help promote social change within our  communities to help deter the effects of bullying which she believes  also increases the crime rates. We must do this in order to protect our  businesses so that we can create jobs and opportunity for our community.      

Sheryl Sutton continues to raise community awareness on  these issues and has been a speaker on Workplace Bullying and Violence  at UCSD Business and Leadership Program.  As an active leader in the  community she has been a longtime speaker and trainer on leadership and  labor issues with an extensive background in organizational leadership  and management.  

Sheryl Sutton is the founder of Bully Busters  of America and also owns a business consulting firm.  Sheryl plans to  continue training and public speaking on these issues as well as a  broader scope of bullying topics for training.   She will be working  with community advocates to increase awareness and to create programs  for deterrence.  For more information you can reach Sheryl at  her Facebook page, Bully Busters of America.